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Do I Know You?

Friday, August 15, 2008

I have a problem remembering people's faces and it has gotten me into a lot of embrassing situations. It doesn't help that I'm nearsighted and refuse to wear my glasses.

Today it happened again. Our department has a new head, MT who assumed office about two weeks ago. My boss brought him around and introduced him to everyone. I saw him just that one time. Today, he came to our office looking for my boss. I said he's still in a meeting. He asked me to tell him to stop by his office when he gets back.

I said," Sure...Mr....."
He said, "Mr. MT".
Me: OHHH...I'm so sorry Sir....
MT: (Smiling) That's alright.

Another time, a head of department also stopped by, KS, looking for my boss. I said he's out who shall I say stopped by. He showed me his ID and I was mortified. He was one of the influential department heads and very well known. Good thing he's a down to earth kinda guy and just laughed it off.

Sometimes there would be people saying hi and calling me by name in the halls or the elevator and I would have no clue who they were. I would just wave and smile back.



I have a friend who's been struggling with family issues ever since I first knew her. Decades after, it's still the main conflict in her life. I was chatting with her yesterday about her issues with her brother and I realized that her problem was control. Whether it was an event in her life, a friend, family, she had to be in control of their actions, of the outcome, of everything.

She has a good heart and I know that this comes from wanting the best for everyone. The thing is, life is full of surprises and most of what happens in our lives cannot be controlled. And certainly our family, husbands, friends, siblings, children should not be controlled.

As for her brother, she told me that she decided not to talk to him anymore and has not done so in about a year. I said if that's what will give you peace and quiet, then so be it. Reconciliation will come when it is time. What is holding her back in this situation is her desire for her brother to respect her feelings and her individuality. I told her you cannot change your brother. Just let it be.

Just let it be. This is what I learned from P. Know that you did the best you could and leave the rest to the Him. Know when to let go. I used to be like my friend. I believed in positive thinking and that nothing cannot be changed or fixed if one wants it badly enough. After all the tribulations I've been through in my life, I've learned to simply let go. This little prayer really works for me:

God Grant Me The Serenity
To Accept The Things I Cannot Change
Courage To Change The Things I Can
And The Wisdom To Know The Difference
Psalm 121:3 - He will not allow your foot to slip; He who keeps you will not slumber.


A Dozen Red Roses

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

I've always thought that giving flowers was a waste of money. Better to give chocolates or have dinner in a nice restaurant. Probably because I never got any flowers hahahaha....

Yesterday, P gave me a dozen red roses for my birthday.'s nice pala to get flowers :) I didn't have a vase to put them in so I improvised and used a jar.

He also wanted to have dinner in a nice restaurant. However, the TV was showing badminton matches from the Beijing Olympics and we wanted to follow the Taufik/Wong Choong Han match through the livescore. We had food delivered instead from Max.

I would always be the one ordering whenever we wanted food delivered as he had difficulty communicating with the order taker through the phone. But last night I wanted him to do the ordering. It's more special I told him. He had no choice.....hahaha......took him a while but it turned out alright.
p.s.-taufik lost :(


THE Cake

Friday, August 8, 2008


The Best Kinda Cake

Thursday, August 7, 2008

My friend K brought me a slice of birthday cake last week. It's chiffon cake with marshmallow icing. These kinda cakes are specially ordered for occasions like birthdays, debuts, etc. so it's not readily available. That slice of cake triggered a tremendous craving for birthday cake. It's my favorite. For me nothing compares.

Yesterday, I went to goldilocks to order one. I was told that they don't make it anymore. So off I went to Red Ribbon hoping it's available there. The conversation with the order taker went like this:

Me: Miss, mag order ako ng birthday cake.
OT: For boy or girl?
Me: Walang okasyon gusto ko lang kumain ng birthday cake.
OT: Meron kaming cakes dito (gesturing towards the display of cakes like black forest-ugh)
Me: Hindi gusto ko nga birthday cake. Mag oorder ako.
OT: For boy or girl?
Me: Hay...sige girl.
OT: Ito po ang catalogue.
Me: Ano bang pinakamura? Gusto ko lang kumain ng cake.
OT: Mam, tingin na lang kayo sa catalogue.
Me: (Leafing through the catalogue) Ano itong boiled icing? Ito ba yung marshmallow icing?
OT: Ahhh....Mam itanong nyo na lang sa manager..ayun po.
Me: (arrrgggh going to the manager) Miss, ito bang boiled icing e marshmallow icing?
Mgr: Yes Mam.
Me: Salamat (went back to the catalogue looking for the cheapest cake with no design)
After finding the cheapest, round picture cake for P500, I went to the counter.
Me: Miss, oorder na ko. Ito na lang.
OT: Mam, dun po sa manager nyo i-order.
Me: *sigh* went to the manager again....Miss, order ako ng birthday cake...ito.
Mgr: Sige Mam, picture cake, anong picture po ilalagay?
Me: Wag na, wala naman okasyon, gusto ko lang kumain ng birthday cake.
Mgr: Kailangan po may picture kasi picture cake.
Me: (AAAaaaarrrghhh....just a little more patience...) sige meron ba pagpipilian dyan?
Mgr: Ito po.
Me: Ito na lang (pointing at the first one).
Mgr: Paki fill up po itong form at full payment po. Ano pong ilalagay na greeting?
Me: (Filling up the form)...lagyan mo na lang ng pangalan ko
Mgr: Ok Mam, bukas po ang pick up ganitong oras din po.
Me: Hoooray...finally....I get to eat my cake!



What is it with mirrors that people, male and female alike, cannot resist looking at their reflections? It is specially noticeable in elevators.

I live in a building with elevators that have mirrors. The whole back of the elevator is mirrored. So when one enters, its the first thing they see unless the elevator is full. Females (and some males I might add) head straight for the back to look at themselves. Adjusting their clothes, hair, wipe smudges from their faces or just plain admiring their reflection. I find it so funny. I can understand if they're running late and did not have enough time to fix themselves up but most of them looked perfectly fine.

Why then can people not resist the draw of the mirror? Insecurity? Lack of confidence in their looks? Or just plain vanity?

What do you think?


The Ideal Husband

Monday, August 4, 2008

B emailed me a link to an article written by Maureen Dowd for the New York Times about Father Pat Connor's advice on how to choose an ideal husband. Apparently, it is quite common to find couples who do not truly know the person they married. I wish I had read this article years ago. It would have saved me a lot of pain and expense not to mention lost time.

Never marry a man who has no friends. So true. He used to tell me about this or that friend from elementary, high school or from his shortlived part time job but none of these friends were lasting friends. If you ask me who his bestfriend is, I couldn't tell you. Not even one friend that he still in touch with.

Does he use money responsibly? He splurged when he had money (that he got from who knows where) but most of the time he was broke probably because he never had a job during our marriage.

Steer clear of someone whose life you can run, who never makes demands counter to yours. It may sound great at first but after a while, you want somebody you can admire doing his job, who has his own friends, and interests.

Is he overly attached to his mother and her mythical apron strings? He wasn't but he wasn't patient and loving either (his mom was paralyzed due to a stroke and used to shout at her when she got makulit).

Does he have a sense of humor? This one he did have which made it easy for him to make people like him. Chatty too.

Don’t marry a problem character thinking you will change him. I didn't know he was a problem character until he told me later how his relatives thought I could change him.

Does he possess those character traits that add up to a good human being — the willingness to forgive, praise, be courteous? Or is he inclined to be a fibber, to fits of rage, to be a control freak, to be envious of you, to be secretive? On the surface he seemed like a nice person easy to get along with. Later you will realize, he lies all the time even when he doesn't have to, secretive and weak willed.

"If I knew back then what I know now,
If I understood the what, when, why and how,
Now it's clear to me what I should have done,
But hindsight is 20/20, 20/20 vision"


Food Cravings

I mentioned in my earlier post that I've never had any food cravings since the first trimester passed by without my being aware of it. Still, there are so many foods that are not allowed. No sushi, salad, seafood, soft cheeses, unapasteurized milk....and the list goes on. It's fine, I get that. There are just times that I absolutely have to have coffee. Am not a big coffee drinker. One cup every morning is all I take. I like the taste of it and it warms my tummy in the morning. So my deal is I have coffee once a week, diluted by lots of milk and I try not to finish the whole cup. Another thing is the cheese. I love cheeses.....brie, camembert, blue cheese! Have to be content with Edam cheese (too salty naman).

The hardest though is not being able to drink coca cola. Coke is like water to me. Yesterday I wanted so badly to have a coke. I wanted to cheat, just a couple of sips. But P was there and he absolutely wouldn't let me have a coke :(

It's hard to make food choices unless I try to make everything myself. I don't have the patience nor the time to do that. So I just try to balance the good food (pinakbet, chopsuey, fruits) with the bad (crispy pata, crab maritess, pizza). Hopefully, that should do it.

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