Wednesday, July 2, 2014
If you're a mom, you would have lost your patience with your child at least once or several times :) I know I have. I promised myself to never hit my child or raise my voice no matter how stubborn she got. Easier said than done. I have been pushed to the limits of my patience so many times and have given in to yelling and in a few instances, hitting. The hitting was nothing more than a light tap mostly on her butt or her hands, but it was still hitting. So when a couple of friends on Facebook shared this article on yelling at kids, I read with trepidation. I knew I would be guilty.
One Sunday, Via was particularly stubborn. Before going in a restaurant to eat, we went to the restroom. I wanted her to pee so she wouldn't say I need to go to the bathroom in the middle of the meal, especially when there is no bathroom in the restaurant and we have to go to the end of the mall. Well she wouldn't. "I'm not wiwi." Most of the time she is but just doesn't want to go. Well this time I lost my patience and swatted her butt. Another time she wouldn't take her antibiotics and spit it out when she did. Lost my temper and shouted at the top of my voice, "take your medicine!"
That night though, I saw the article again, it was shared several times, and remembered what I did that day. I sat down beside Via in bed and said that I was sorry I spanked her and shouted at her sometimes when she was particularly stubborn. Her eyes filled with tears. I knew then that her feelings were hurt. But the way children usually are, she was quick to forgive and said that we will remind each other whenever we forget and raise our voices.
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
The weekend is our time together, Via and I. And she always says, " I love doing things with you Mommy. This the best day ever!" It so warms my heart.
These moments are sometimes spoiled during mealtimes. Via is a verrrrry slow eater and I eat very fast. I guess I just gobble up my food especially when I'm very hungry. Which is why I always end up, after patiently waiting for a few minutes, telling Via to "hurry up." Finish your food! Swallow!
Last Sunday, we had dessert at Coldstone Creamery. It's her new favorite ice cream. I had a piece of cake and coffee from the coffee shop next to it, Caffe Pascucci. As usual I finished first. After awhile I told Via to "Hurry Up."
She said to me,"Mom, why do you always tell me to hurry up? Let us savor the day!"
Of course that shut me up! Why DO I always tell her to hurry up when it's our time together? It doesn't matter what we do, it's that we are doing it together and I should not rush it. She's right! We must savor every moment together! We must savor every moment of our life! We must savor our Coldstone Creamery desserts too!
My daughter has been such a blessing to me, there are no words. I have become a better person because of her. I got to know myself because of her. And I am striving each day to better myself, especially when I see her imitating my behavior, my actions, my habits, my expressions.... Am I her role model? That scares me and it drives me to improve myself and be a better person.
p.s. - I had the velvet cake at Caffe Pascucci. It was so-so. Next time I'll try the chocolate one.
Daddy messaged me that he would be coming home for a couple of weeks which was totally unexpected. So we looked forward to that day, a Friday. Thursday morning, somebody was at the door very early. Sino ba yan ang aga ah! It was Daddy! He got confused because the flight was midnight. Good thing cos he got to see Via's last day as kiddie crew at TGI Fridays.
Before we knew it, it was time for Daddy to leave but we made the most of the short time he was here.